Build Tomorrow - Another Day Of Life

Well things at the homestead are quiet for the moment.  Most that have now heard of the family blow-up are supportive of us.  The hard part is to remain strong while we figure out what the next steps are.  That is something that is an ongoing discussion.

We do want our children to have a relationship with their grandparents, but it needs to be on our terms.  So how do we set those terms.  And do we do it on our own, or do we need some sort of third party intervention.

I updated the “About me” page with I hope some more useful information, and I hope information that will encourage you to come back to this site.  I have some more stuff coming that I hope will better engage my readers, and build a community of those looking to Build Tomorrow together.

To me the world is all about hope.  I ran across a post on the blog Thinking Simple, based on a question I had posted via a social network, where the author Christyawan discussed their perfect day.  It was all about the day his first son was born, and the pending arrival of his newest child.  I think he is right on with his priorities. He’s really got it right.

I have added a countdown timer to the site that is a reminder to EVERYONE to submit their comments to the Fed about rule changes for credit card compnies.  We all need to act to make sure our voices get heard.

I wanted to also say thanks again to Tricia over at Blogging Away Debt for allowing me to guest post, on such an imprtant issue for the consumer.  And thank those that have come to check out this blog.  I hope you’ll continue to come back.

As a final note, I appreciate all of the comment I have recivied, and will be responding to them as quickly as I can.  I have also added a contact me page to make it easier to contact me.  I really would love to have some guest bloggers as well so please contact me if you are interested.

~Another Day

I have been a follower of Tricia over at Blogging Away Debt for some time.  I am excited to be a guest blogger on her site.  My guest post “Making your voice heard, Proposed rules for Credit Card Companies”, can be found here.  Please check it out as it has some really good information on the Federal reserves proposed crackdown on credit card companies, and their desire for consumer input.

If you are a new visitor to this site, welcome. I hope you like what you see and will come back again.  I love having new readers.  You can contact me anytime, at Familyman@anotherdayoflife.com. I always appreciate feedback and suggestions.

While you are here today, you can consider subscribing to my site via reader, or email?

~Another Day

Welcome to this weeks “Way Back Wednesday”, the “Top Cop Edition”.  We have three entries for this weeks entries.

SWAT 1975-1976

S.W.A.T. was a TV series about the adventures of the WCPD’s Special Weapons And Tactics (S.W.A.T.) team. It ran on ABC from 1975 to 1976. The show starred Steve Forrest as the unit’s leader, Lt. ‘Hondo’ Harrelson, and Rod Perry as Hondo’s second-in-command “Deke.” The show also featured an early starring role by Robert Urich as Jim Street, one of the young team members.  Though the show lasted only 30 or so epidoses it is widly remember for its theme music.

 

T. J. Hooker (1982-1985)

T. J. Hooker was a weekly drama starring William Shatner. The series premiered in 1982 on ABC and ran through 1985. The show centered on 15-year veteran police sergeant T. J. Hooker (Shatner). The supporting cast included Adrian Zmed as rookie Officer Vince Romano, Heather Locklear as Officer Stacy Sheridan.  They were members of the fictional LCPD.

Hunter (1984-1991)

Hunter was a police drama television series starring Fred Dryer which ran on NBC from 1984 to 1991. The main character, Sgt. Rick Hunter, a very “Dirty Harry like” physically imposing, and often rule-breaking homicide detective (badge# 089) with the Los Angeles Police Department. Stepfanie Kramer co-starred as Hunter’s female partner Sgt. Dee Dee McCall.  They have attempted revivals of the show in both the mid and late 90’s with no success.

And that’s our “Top Cops” for this weeks edition of Way Back Wedneday.  We will be back next week with yet another edition.  See you then!

~Aslan

Things in our house have been a bit difficult as everyone who follows this blog tend to be aware.  Anyone who has ever been married can probably relate to the stories we all hear about extended family.  Even biblical verses talk of marriage, and leaving ones parents, and becoming one with your spouse.  I will do anything to protect my wife and children.

Unfortunatly yesterday that evolved into a full knock down argument with my mother-in-law.  At heart she is a good person that cares and loves her grandchildren.  So much in fact it can interfere in our direct family.  She often passes over the th Grandmother role.  My wife and children get stuck in the middle.

Over the course of our relationship and marriage, I have heard my wife’s parents put her down, question her parenting abilities, and enforce their will, no matter what she feels.  And when a situation arose yesterday it was no different.  I try and stay out of it at my wife’s request, but yesterday after being dragged into the argument by my Mother in Law, and being accused of making all of my wife’s decisions of speaking for her, and basically being the whole problem, I was silent no more.  I was pulled in, and could not stand and watch my wife sit there and take it, like she always does.  She always says they make her feel like she is 5 years old.  And this time I couldn’t just let her be talked to like that.

So as I told my Mother-In-Law I won’t justify to her when we say no so something whether it be an outing or them just taking the kids somewhere.  I won’t explain why we want the kids home for dinner that majority of the time.  I am a believer of the family dinner table.  I won’t accept her questioning our decisions as parents.  It’s our job to coach little leaugue, attend school plays, help with projects, and shape the boys into responsible men.  Are they valuable as grandparents?  Yes.  Do we want them as co-parents?  No.  Finally my wife spoke up for herself, which may me so proud of her.  Yet her mother points it all back as an attack on them.

I have no problem with them spending time with their grandchildren.  They do not need to call every day, five times a day, and take them somewhere every day.  Staying home can be a good thing too.  Of course since Grandad works all day he can only see them at night, but wait a minute, so do I.  So of course it is all our fault, they are blameless.  And as a parting gift she told the kids, “I probably won’t see you for a long time, becasue your parents won’t let us.”  My message to the kids was “everyone wants the best for you, and sometimes adults just have to figure out how to do that, but it will all work out.”

This time my wife understood my anger, and my finally voicing up.  Afterall I was dragged into the argument.  Hopefully after time we will be ready to talk, becasue the kids should have their grandparents.  There needs to be a change, and figuing out how to facilitate it will be the challenge.  No one else will make the first step.

~Another Day

Summertime

Yes, I am actually.  I have been taking a few days off.  I have also had some other priorities latley that have precluded my “bloggering” a bit.  Things should be back to normal soon.  I will be starting up a “reader” drive soon, and hope that if you like my blog you will subcribe via e-mail or reader, and help promote this blog a bit.  One thing I find in many of the blogs I read is the common struggles we all seem to have, and the very different attitudes we all seem to carry when facing them.  I genuinly like to read those where I feel like I can relate to the blogger.  I am thinking through something in regards to that.  More later.  Also with summer you see many of the blogs slow in frequency becuase folks are trying to do summer things like, well outdoor type stuff.  I know I have. 

~Another Day