Build Tomorrow - Another Day Of Life

I was always a fairly motivated person.  Someone who always went after things I wanted.  It has made me fairly successful in many of the things I do.  I have realized through some soul searching as well as some very timely comments by a few of my readers that I somehow have let that take a back seat to my situation.  So instead of steering my destiny I am allowing my situation to steer my life.

Once anyone gets overwhelmed by the situation, and allows it to become the driver, it is very, very easy to let the thing you do have and enjoy become backseat to the hardships.  I can fully say I have realized that that has become my family situation.

The largest problem with that is it can cause some kind of paralysis.  Not necessarily physical, but certainly mental, making it virtually impossible to move forward, and take the steps needed to resolve the situation you find yourself in.  Some how you have to get motivated to take that first step.  So I am changing my mind to stop thinking about the situation, but start thinking about that first step.  That first thing to work towards fixing the situation.

While much of our vacation was a bust, it was good in the respect, that I think my wife is beginning to see the toll that the situation has taken on me and is taking on our family, and all of the potential lost opportunities that may result if we don’t take action.  So for that it was a success, because we are finally starting to be on the same page.

I am also realizing that to Build Tomorrow, Another Day of Life, I have to look a little bit more at yesterday.  While I can’t change what when wrong in the past, I can look at what went right.  What is was about me I liked, and learn to duplicate it.

So hopefully you’ll check back in to see my progress, Another Day of Life at a time.

~Another Day

While my hope over the week was to entertain and enlighten with my wonderfully detailed tales from the road of wonderful family time, and exciting debt free adventures, both time and family got in the way of that daily blogging fix. And you know what, that is fine. In fact that is great. I got to spend tine with my family, and I think for better or worse we ended up with a little bit more of an understanding of one another. My wife I think finally is beginning to grasp the severity of our situation financially. It was both good and bad.

It’s funny to me how much that situation can consume you. One of my faithful readers, Dr. John had this to say after my last post.

“Part of your problem is you allow your debt to have to big an influence on how you feel.
If I was to concentrate on my COPD and what I can’t do because of it I would always be miserable. You need to enjoy what there is to enjoy.”

What that made me realize it how much not only did it influence how I felt, it was now in control of everything. With my wife’s realization of the toll it was taking on me as well as our marriage, and our kids, she began to accept that I can’t do this alone anymore. So her plan is to find a way, any way to help.

I too began to take a more serious look at my life. In order for me to regain control I must do something about it. I realized that the huge amount of vacation time I have is only put to good use if I use it for something. Like getting our lives in order. So that is what I will be doing.

The changes to this blog are coming along and still planned for mid September. So with that I will get back to unpacking.

One a more personal note, Thanks Dr. John!

~Another Day

Both Alsan and I are off on our family vacations this week. But rather that not have our regular Wednesday feature I thought It would be fun to share some vacation videos from across the web.

Dangerous winter Sports

Swimmers Bloopers

See everyone next week as we get back on track.

~Another Day

The First three days have come and gone. And of those three days we have gotten on each others nerves, gone out to eat, gotten sunburn, and watched it rain. Rain. A lot of it. Downpours. So take a family of five and stick them inside on a no debt vacation (meaning little going out), and it can be a boiler for tempers. And it has been. But there have been some good memories. To me that is the most important. So not comes the reality that when I get back home I need to begin to face our financial situation much more seriously. I have been doing some work on a second business but with anything it’s a learning curve, and that too will take some time as well.

I look at this vacation as well as others and realize what severe debt can do to your ability to enjoy the life around you.

So in addition to my sunburn I got some reality. And that’s the first three.

~Another Day

One thing you figure out when you travel with three children is that even the best plans often the best plans don’t always go in your favor.  The other really big outcome for me was to realize that maps tend to be a bit misleading when it come to figuring out distances.

Our original intention was to leave very early Saturday morning, visit some family members at what we thought was the halfway point, and then complete the second half of our trip in good time.

Our actual achievement was not as we had hoped.  Not only did we leave hours after we had anticipated, and then the short visit went on until the wee hours of the night.  It seemed the finally leg of our journey took forever.

Now of course being on a vacation, where money is an object, everyone is overtired, and the place has not been quite as we expected, it has been a somewhat stressful first 24 hours.

So here we are in Florida, excited for the pool, and it has both afternoons since our arrival yesterday. Today at least we are all speaking, unlike yesterday.  I while trying to relax do constantly think of all of the debt, and the down, finding it hard to snap out of.the overall funk I have been in.  All I can do is hope that as the days go by my mood will get better.

So far my wife has been unimpressed with our facilities.  One thing we did not realize is that we are in the middle of the city.  In addition many of the amenities, that we were promised, are not quite as promised in the brochure.  So my wife has decided to make it her goal to complain and find a better location. 

While the kids are overall a both disappointed in the weather and such it is a bit stressful, as when you are under stress,  little thing tend to frustrate you.  So in the end I need to find a way to unwind a bit in order to relax myself.

And that is today’s “Tale’s of the Road 08’”. Please come by tomorrow to find the latest in the current saga that has become our summer vacation.