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Archive for July, 2007

Well, my week never slowed down, so I never got the change to get back onto my blogging routine. Now with the new week I am back at work, for some rest. Or just a different kind of being busy activity. So far it has been a busy day of catching up. I have refinanced a bunch of our debt at a lower interest rate, and will shift the others around, so after all is said and done we should be saving an extra $400 a month. I will also in addition to my online ventures, probably try to get a part time job on the weekends for a while. So we shall see where that goes. My wife hadn’t heard from her perspective employer, but is still on the search as well. What makes it difficult for her is the unknown that is our 13 year old Jon, and how school will play out this year.
For those that visit it, you may have noticed that the Community Center has had Zero updates recently. That’s because I am a bit unsure as to its future at this point. That doesn’t mean I plan to give up, just maybe re-think it a bit.
All is well with the wife, today being a large day for nausea, and the overall bad queasy feelings. We saw our baby Friday via an ultrasound, and saw the little heart beating. It still amazes me that within nine months it will be a whole new person. I am excited and terrified all at once.
Lastly for today I will say that I am in the process of looking at this blog too. Now it will never go away, but I am looking at the template, as well as moving it to my own web server, and it’s own domain. I will be back on track with posting this week, and have caught up on reading some of the blogs I read on a normal basis.
~Another Day

Week 6, and the Tonsilectomy

Jul-25-2007 By Family Man

Hi There! Mr. Bad at Blogging lately here. Not only have I been bad about writing, but I will be honest in that I have been bad about reading. I just have been on the go 24/7 over the last two weeks, but hopefully all will slow down soon. So now for the updates….

I am on vacation this week, though we aren’t doing anything exciting. Will had his tonsils and adenoids out yesterday, and being ever the drama child he is being extra dramatic, but he is 8 so he gets a slide. Of course with the surgery comes the bad breath, which we were warned would last a few days. Now of course with his Mom being pregnant, her sense of smell seems to be working overtime, so if he breathes near her she turns quite green very quickly. She actually commented about how she almost wished she felt worse as it would make the pregnancy more “real”, because so far, “Knock, knock”, she says it’s been a really easy one. Now as far as I go, I am still settling in to the idea of being a “Scratch Dad”. You see Will, and Jon came pre-trained, though we have to do some “re-training”, it seems like it might be easier than starting form scratch. I am excited though, but probably will be more so on Friday when I see and hear the baby for the first time.

This leads me to the last update…Debt. This week I am working on trying to figure out how to balance it all out, and at least get the APR lowered so it’s more affordable. I hope to have that figured out by the end of the week as well. So far Nicole has not heard back from her perspective employer, so we are in the holding pattern as to when she is supposed to start. Though she decided to that if she doesn’t hear back this week she will do some Temporary stuff until she does.

I apologize that I have been so bad lately, about reading and posting, but I will post a few more times this week, and take the time to read the blogs I am a community member of. I promise J

~Another Day

When Life throws Curve Balls

Jul-17-2007 By Family Man

I know I have been delinquent in posting lately, but as a rule work, and family must always come first. Work, has been busy, and family just as busy. So for that I apologize but I hope everyone has not lost hope, and will continue to visit my blog. So now for my humble explanation.

Work. Working where I do we have slow and peak times. The end of July is always particularly busy as we do annual reconciliations, and I am responsible for validating that the folks we reconcile are duly notified. So it’s been a lot of long hours over the last week or so, but will slow down towards the end of this week. I must say I actually enjoy the busy times at work as they keep me on my toes, and I would rather be busy than slow, and bored.

And then there is family. With that comes some standard stuff, and the unexpected, and oh boy when something is unexpected, it can truly be both scary, and exciting, and depending on the moment I can be either one. More on that later in the post, because I have to keep you interested somehow.

I am now even more aggressively trying to organize out debt. Mostly because of the yet to be described “unexpected” that is forthcoming. The amount of interest I am paying is extreme, and one of my cards, wants to raise the rate to 32%. That of course is because of my debt load. I’ll be honest I never applied for this card, but they bought the bank that I had the card through, and I haven’t really enjoyed the customer service. I actually had had a card from this bank a few years ago, and cancelled them because of their service. So I am in the process of letting my 717 FICO score help me get lower interest rates. I also did some research and found that If I take the cards that have the highest balances, and enroll them through a Debt Management plan then I would not hurt my score more than a point or so, as all my debt is current. And they will allow me to keep the two cards I have at zero, for emergencies. Though we don’t charge anymore. One of the things I had to realize is how we got here, and much of it was my doing. Yes we had a lot of necessary debt, but a portion of it was that prior to last year I was a single person, and didn’t adapt to the cost of raising children as quickly as I should have. One word of caution though is to make sure you look into reputable organizations like CCCS, which are accredited by the government as reputable. Much of this though is preliminary as we have to see how many hours my wife will be working when she starts her new job in a few weeks.

Now on to the children. Will will be having surgery next week to remove his tonsils. So we have been getting all of our ducks in a row with insurance and so forth. Jon is still in the stream of his ESY, and his forced tennis. In addition both children were grounded in the last week, at separate times for separate reasons, but never the less, it does make evening livelier, when you have to deal with children, who are grounded. On a positive note, we did take up bike riding. We made it 13 miles this weekend. I know you will all be happy to hear I have recovered.

I will say that with family come surprises. I became a Dad last year to two great kids. But as I said above sometime things happen unexpectedly that are unexpected and both exciting and scary all at once. Thursday was just that day. Thursday morning my wife had gone for a doctor’s appointment, as she had not been feeling very well. Thursday afternoon they called her back and told her she was 5 weeks pregnant! While we had talked about have more kids in another year or so, we wanted an opportunity to work on our debt and settle everything with the two kids we have, so needless to say this was both unexpected, and now it even pushes us harder to get our finances straight. So I will be a Dad….again.

So I hope you will all forgive me for my absence, and will check in again.
~Another Day

Random Thoughts for Today

Jul-10-2007 By Family Man

I often wonder about how things turn out. If anyone had asked me when I was 18, where I would be at my tender age of 34, never in my wildest dreams would I have thought I would be here. Life takes so many twists and turns, it can be a challenge just to keep ahead of the storm we all call life. But I can say I have had quite a ride thus far. Tomorrow is our visit with the lawyer in regards to Child Support and all of that drama to see where we go from here. On the home front my wife has begun the process of re-organizing with the intent that we move about 10 months from now. She thinks it will make it much easier to pack.
On the web front I have done some updating to the Community Center, and now this site has the three newest feeds fed to it on a daily basis. We are also looking to extend some of the services we would like to offer.
We are in the process of going through our “junk” and possibly delving into the world of e-bay, to make some extra cash. I will let everyone know how tomorrow goes.
~Another Day

Back to basics

Jul-9-2007 By Family Man

When I started this blog almost three months ago it was somewhat therapeutic. I had a lot of thoughts, and things that I didn’t quite no how to release, and this has been a great way. It’s also taught me a lot. If you Google “Build Tomorrow”, I am as of today # 2 on Google, so it has given me the opportunity to learn lots of other skills. I still however try to find ways to gain new readers, to both this and my other site “The Community Center”. So today I decided to stop and refresh myself on the reasons I started doing this.

#1-An outlet for my stress over my debt load. This was particularly straight forward, as when I look back to a little over a year ago I had zero debt. And as hard as this has been I have to remind myself, that I can get out of it, and it was necessary to provide the children I agreed to take on the necessary tools to succeed that they had not had before. And even through all of the frustration, I see that while they may be slow the results are beginning to show. Both boys will grow into successful adults, and make all of this worth it.

#2- To be part of something that is bigger than I am. I think back to my first professional career when the Internet was just starting, and it was not very useful. Used as a positive force the World Wide Web can bring communities of people together, in a way like no other. People no longer have to feel they are alone in the world. You can always find someone who is in the same boat as you. And just maybe, I will make a difference in someone’s life.

#3- To recover from my debt. There are so many people out there who make an extra income from the Internet, and I hope to use their knowledge to do the same. Now mind you I am not looking to be rich, just to get back to where I was 2 years ago.

#4- To return to writing. I haven’t really written much in the last ten years. I was an avid writer in College and for a few years after. Mostly short stories. I was working with a publisher to publish many of them when my mother passed away. I drifted away from writing, and never looked back.

#5- To Give Back. I have done a lot of things in life. I was an Emergency Medical Technician for 10 years, was on my own at 18, on my second marriage, and have been through good and bad. Maybe someone will read my blog, and gain some value, and then it’s all worth it.

~Another Day

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